Ontologic Coaching With Paul Duba
I am a Newfield Certified Coach (NCC) and trained in the ontologic method. I am also an Associate Certified Coach (ACC) and member of the International Coach Federation.
When more of the same is no longer an option, I can help you rethink what is possible as you explore new perspectives for taking care of the things that matter most to you. In doing so, you will be able to shift your perspective and create openings for exceptional results in your life.
Why ontologic coaching? If you are interested in coaching, it is likely because there is a change you want to make, one you have perhaps made a concerted effort to bring about. Real change is commonly elusive for high performing adults. This is because the assumptions and thought patterns we use to make sense of our world are familiar, functional, and embedded in a lifetime of practice. Even if imperfect, life makes the most sense in the "way of being" (ontology) that we are used to.
Our way of being can get in the way of a desired change. When this is the case, it is not enough to simply marshal our will, redoubling our efforts against the inertia of a current mindset. Rather, change may require us to examine our commitment to assumptions that have served us well in the past—made us who we are—that nonetheless stand in the way of our ability to explore a new way of being. Sometimes we must unlearn before relearning.
You are already good at what you do. Most adults have well regulated lives, with functional assumptions and working paradigms that serve to help us not have to think about the way we act around things that matter to us. Instead, we rely on our perspective for how the world works to help us take effective action, sometimes in the blink of an eye. This makes it particularly hard to see our embedded assumptions as a choice, our particular “hack” on life. Rather, the experience of "being" ourselves in the world is “the Truth,” a process that is invisible to us. This "reality" is the backdrop against which we cast our lives, make meaning of what we perceive, and understand how things are supposed to work. We get good at this.
Think about strong feelings that help you take action in the world. Some of these may be:
What doing a good job looks and feels like
How to get things done with other people
How to uphold your standards of performance
How to leverage your strengths (and work around your liabilities)
What you do to maintain a sense of self worth
How you manifest a sense of purpose in your life
Now imagine that one or more of the assumptions that frame these behaviors is getting in the way of a change that you want to make. No matter how worthy, this change will not fit into your way of being unless you take the risk of shifting to a new perspective for how the world works.
If it was easy, you would have already made the change. A change that you want to make but have not yet made may be one that fundamentally disrupts your sense of “the way I get things done, feel worthy, and work with others.” If this is the case, a desire to hold onto old constructs for “being in the world” may be getting in the way of:
The rise to supervisory responsibilities
Letting go of control, delegating, and empowering others
Risk taking and vulnerability when faced with ambiguous, disruptive challenges
Creativity and innovation in an evolving workplace
Changing roles, reorganization, and succession planning
Managing your values for work-life integration
Life transitions and growth
Coaching is transformational. As a coach, I can help you persist in navigating the change you want to make, not by helping you create a checklist of new things to do, but by helping you explore what you already know to be true.
The things you care about most
Your sense of purpose
The commitments you want to keep and the conversations you are ready to have
An expanded perception of what is possible
Readiness to question assumptions that may have served you well in the past but now stand in your way