Ontologic Coaching With Paul Duba

I am a Newfield Certified Coach (NCC) and am trained in the ontologic method. Like all coaching professionals, I consider you to be whole, creative, and resourceful. In addition, ontologic coaching reaches directly into your desire for change and enables you to see new possibilities for getting there. When more of the same is no longer an option, I can help you find new perspectives for taking care of the things that matter most to you. In doing so, you will see openings that lead to exceptional results in your life.

Why ontologic coaching? If you are interested in coaching, it is likely because there is a change you want to make, one you have perhaps made a concerted effort to bring about. That you are a high performing adult and faced with an apparent roadblock is common with my coaching clients. Paradoxically, this is an indication that one’s life is “working” just fine. We all build function into the “operating system” of thought that enables us to be who we are: how we make sense of our world and decide to take action. The assumptions and thought patterns we use to order our lives are familiar and embedded in a lifetime of practice. Even if imperfect, life makes the most sense to us in a "way of being" (ontology) that has allowed us to get good at being who we already are. Ontologic coaching helps you unpack this and understand new behaviors that lead to greater effectiveness in reaching for your goals.

Paul Duba, NCC, ACC, MPA

Paul Duba, NCC, ACC, MPA

Our way of being can get in the way of a desired change. When our current ontology causes us to “get in our own way,” it’s not enough to simply marshal more willpower, redoubling our efforts to reach for desired goals. Rather, real change requires us to examine our commitment to assumptions that have served well in the past—made us who we are—and which now may limit what we see as possible. We humans must sometimes unlearn before relearning.

You are already good at what you do. Most adults have well regulated lives with functional assumptions and working paradigms that serve to help us not have to think about the way we act around things that matter most to us. Instead, we rely on our perspective of “how the world works” to help us take effective action, sometimes in the blink of an eye. This makes it hard to see governing assumptions as a choice, our particular “hack” on life. Nonetheless, the experience of being ourselves in the world is a “perceived reality,” a backdrop we’ve created for living our lives. We make meaning of our world—and thus ourselves—by framing our perceptions in the context of how we understand things are supposed to work. This familiar process allows us to then decide what to do about it. We get really good at this; it’s normal to find ourselves bound, sometimes inexplicably, to behaviors that are rooted in these old assumptions.

Think about strong feelings that help you take action in the world. Some of these may be:

·    What doing a good job looks and feels like to me

·    How I get things done with other people

·    How I uphold my standards of performance

·    How I manage a sense of social belonging and acceptance by my peers

·    How I leverage my strengths (and work around my liabilities)

·    What I do to maintain a sense of self-worth

·    How I manifest a sense of purpose in my life

Now imagine that one or more of the assumptions that make these behaviors make sense is getting in the way of a change you want to make. No matter how worthy the change, it will not fit into your way of being unless you take the risk of seeing things differently, shifting perspective to see a new way that the world can work.

If it was easy you would have already made the change. A change that you want to make but have not yet made may be one that fundamentally disrupts your sense of “the way I get things done, feel worthy, and work with others.” If this is the case, your desire to hold onto old constructs for “being in the world” may be getting in the way of:

·    The rise to supervisory responsibilities

·    Letting go of control, delegating, and empowering others

·    Risk taking and vulnerability when faced with disruptive challenges

·    Freedom from worry and self-limiting emotions that hold you back

·    Creativity and innovation in an evolving workplace

·    Changing roles, reorganization, and succession planning

·    Managing your values for work-life integration

·    Life transitions and growth

Coaching is transformational. As a coach, I can help you persist in navigating the change you want to make, not by helping you create a checklist of new things to do, but by helping you explore what you already know to be true.

·    The things you care about most

·    Your sense of purpose

·    The commitments you want to keep and the conversations you are ready to have

·    Emotional states that support being who you want to be

·    Knowing that more is possible

Now is the time. If more of the same is no longer an option, please consider coaching. You are already whole, creative and resourceful. Coaching is the professional service that helps you unlock these for greater effectiveness in your life. Contact those you trust for a coaching referral or visit the Newfield Network to find accredited ontologic coaches near you, https://newfieldnetwork.com/coach-connect/.